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"I’m not very good with…confrontation…"

Someone was wrong yesterday.

She doesn’t read my blog, but I’m not going to say who it was anyway. Just know that she is someone I interact with on a regular basis, and that her being wrong affected not only herself, but her colleagues and two other groups of people.

In trying to get to the root of the matter, I discovered her fault. But she had been hurt by what had happened, so hurt that she didn’t hear what I was saying. I only said it once. Then I backed off.

The whole thing has bothered me on and off ever since. I ended up eating some Chinese food Sean brought home after work (thanks, honey), and then taking a nap until around 9:30. At that point I got up and prepared all my stuff for today, and got online a little, then finally went back to bed. I woke up thinking about it this morning.

I don’t know, what do you do when someone you care about is wrong? How do you fix the situation without betraying them? Do you just take their side and not worry about fixing it?

And on a completely different note…what do you do when you come to the point in a debate where you realize the other person isn’t going to see things your way, and you aren’t going to see things their way? How do you end the debate without making the other person’s opinion seem trivial? I’ve tried saying “It’s time to agree to disagree,” but that doesn’t seem to work.